Pamper your senses in the morning April 11, 2012 13:36
Do you often feel stressed out early in the morning due to the extra effort you put in to reach your office? The one who starts his day with rush will be the one who will never find mental peace in his life. Wrapped up in day-to-day mechanical life, one is facing tough time breaking the shell of the stress. That’s the reason why weekend parties gained so much momentum. You don’t really need them as long as you welcome your morning with a cool mind. Here are seven best ways to start everyday refreshed. 1. Keep your alarm clock away: Hand moving automatically towards the head of alarm clock has been a daily affair to most of us each morning the little peace shouts to remind us the upcoming day. Since restraining yourself from hitting on the head of alarm clock is a hard nut to crack, it is advisable to keep your alarm clock away from you, may be on the table or in the shelf. Always remember that snoozing alarm is always a bad habit. 2. Deep breathe: Take a deep breathe, sit and relax for a couple of minutes before you move out of bed. Never jump out of bed in hurry. You should have good respect for morning and welcome the same by taking deep breathes and peeping out of windows to feel the cool breeze and green plants. These five senses of a person can make him feel refreshed if you pamper them for a few minutes in the morning hours. 3. Surroundings: Surroundings always play a key role in refreshing the moods of a person. You should keep your surrounding clean and green. The remaining four ways include avoiding caffeine, having breakfast, exercising and sitting in right posture. Adhere to these six ways and see the change in your life. (Phani)
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Live for a purpose… live in today! April 10, 2012 12:17
Someone rightly said, ‘Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery… only today is in you’… let us precise the last statement even more and say ‘NOW’ is in your hands and live ‘NOW’ first along with planning towards tomorrow… here are some expressions I have found out of different people, that gave me a thought of living ‘NOW’, much more stronger; Tell People What You Really Think - Life is too short for lies, half-truths, and beating around the bush. Tell the truth. To others. To loved ones. And especially to yourself. Give 100% – Every day counts, and it is up to you to make it so. Don’t give it half of your effort. Always give 100%. Always do your best. And always be proud that you have given it your all. Does Something That You Believe In - If you only had one day, would you be doing what you are doing today? Make sure you believe in the activities you do. Does your work matter to you? Tell Those That You Care About… That You Care About Them - Don’t miss an opportunity to tell others what they mean to you. Tell your loved ones everyday how much they matter. Tell others that you care about them. And by all means, express your inner feelings to that person that you are too shy to approach. Do What’s Important – It is easy to get bogged down in the minutiae of our fast-paced world. Take a minute to stop and ensure that you are not just busy, but that you are doing what is most important. Do that Thing You Have Been Meaning To Do - We all have limited time. The catch is that you don’t know how much you have. Don’t delay your passions and dreams. Some people put off things for their entire lives, until it is too late. Have a Life - You do have time. Spend it wisely. Go on that date. Spend time with the kids. Get out there and do something! Enjoy Today! - It doesn’t matter whether it is raining or it just got off to a bad start. Never give up the chance to enjoy today. A bad day today always beats tomorrow, especially if there is no tomorrow. See, living life in ‘NOW’ is so simple, yet enjoyable… all we need to do is start actually living ‘NOW’… so what are you waiting for? Start living…
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Know the unanswered! April 09, 2012 13:19
Past six months of my life are a hell and what more it could be? Things were not at all going well at Office… Manager has become a disaster to my life… I am constantly in a thought that I am being targeted… My continuous efforts to set things right are not at all getting good results. Every day there is a rejection and nothing more. Every moment there is a down fall and nothing much. Every second there is a curse on my life and nothing great. In short, this life is disgusting for me…. One evening, on way back to from my Office, just a thought has come to my mind after more than six long months of living with a disgusting feeling. ‘Why all this happening to me? Why am I screwing up my happiness each day and living in insane? Will this life will be the same, moving further? Why am I being targeted? Am I really being targeted or it is just my perception? Then I answered to my questions, this time in a different perspective. Some of them are; Why my manager is trying to overload work on me? B’cos she thinks I am efficient enough to handle multi-tasking and yet complete the work in a given time. Why she troubles me even on a week off? It is my inability to let her trouble me. Rather than bitching about my manager, I should in turn learn how to say ‘no’. I am the only person whom she remembers when that last minute work comes?Yes, because I am always available in the Office. Till date I did not make anyone realize that even I have a family. Despite of me not liking doing all those extra work, I am mum, do all the given work and have created a ‘slave’ like impression in the office about me. Why people talk anything and everything about me? Because I do not react and teach them their limits. All the time, I am with ‘it’s okay’ kind of an attitude. Why I am not being considered for higher level positions even though my work speaks? Because I do not speak. I do not market my abilities. I just do the work and push off from Office. No effort made by me to showcase the people in the organization as to what I am. So, I have decided it is me who have let the people and my manager in the Organization to think the way they do about me. Despite of moving to other organization and cursing the people in the present company, I need to first learn how to tackle the situations and yet live in peace. Only then, I can sustain in any other organization. This losing and weak behavior of mine is not done at all. So, these days I am saying ‘no’ to whatever extra work my manager gives if I think this is getting a bit over loaded for me, simply not lifting the call on week offs, when my manager asks me the reason of not lifting the call, I would in turn answer her straight away it is my right to not take a call on a week end. Let people go to hell, let everyone think whatever they want to, if anything or any talk is against my self-respect, I will raise the voice. Each day after my work, I would put a mail to my manager about the things done that day. I will for sure raise the voice and ask for a promotion if I feel I deserve and the analysis would match to the reality. Finally, it is not about being in good books and dying each moment. It is about being what you are and being in peace.
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'live' or 'get out' of 'Post break up' depression! April 07, 2012 11:32
Someone said it so right, at a given situation you and me and for that matter everyone would react to the situation in a same manner… then how would the other person be able to give advices to us? It is because he/she is out of the situation and is not in the same position as we are… if the so called person who has given all that ‘gyaan’ for us experiences the similar situation, he/she would react in the same manner just as we did earlier… it is only the necessity of facing the situation that matters. And this also means that no matter what rather than taking the other person’s advice, it is better for us to solve them on our own, be it a decision to be taken while getting in a relationship or getting out of a relationship… okay… I am not given any advice but just letting you know what all you can do to get out of that post break up depression… rest in you how do you take this further… as it is a very bad option to live in a ‘depression’ for a long time; Breakups happen to the best of us. Actually, they're a normal part of being a teenager. It's important to cut yourself some slack when you're feeling vulnerable and rejected. Let yourself mourn the loss, and remember that you don't have to be perfect all of the time-or any of the time. Nobody is! Getting over your ex is virtually impossible if you're fantasizing about getting back together. It's important to learn how to be happy as a single person before you start to date again. Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want, when you want. Watch a cheesy movie you would never admit to liking. Switch off your cell phone at the time your ex used to call. Perform a cleansing ritual, such as throwing away her yearbook photo or deleting his mushy e-mails. You'll be amazed how much better you'll feel. Breakups can cause a range of unpleasant feelings, from deep sadness to intense anger. It's important to identify what you're feeling, acknowledge that it hurts, then let it go. If you're struggling with the "letting go" part, try writing what you feel on a piece of paper, then ripping it up. When you're feeling really awful, taking a nap or going for a walk can help ease the pain and break the cycle of negative thoughts. In general, try to get your demons out in a constructive way, such as sports, music, art or journaling. It's also OK to cry, scream and complain about how bad you feel. Find a secluded place to get out the nastiest feelings, then seek out friends and family to lend a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. It's easy to get teary-eyed thinking about his adorable brown eyes or her cute way of answering the phone. But what about your ex's not-so-great qualities? Remind yourself just how annoying, boring or insensitive your ex could be, and you'll be on your way to recovery. One of the worst parts of a breakup is the loneliness. Use all the willpower you've got to resist calling your ex when you're feeling lonely and sad. Though your ex may have been a source of comfort in the past, calling him or her for an ego boost will only make it harder for you move on. Look for new sources of support among friends, family members, counselors and online support groups. Still you want to live in a post break up depression, cursing and hating yourself for a reason or no reason; it is your call at the end of the day!
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If you want to attract others… April 06, 2012 13:09
Of course, it is our own life, we are born and living the way we are, and no matter what if we are living in a society, it is not necessary for us to change some basic traits of us… on the other hand, we can for sure alter our personality traits to be attractive, so that people around us start liking us, or like us even more on a larger scale… read further if you want to try this exercise out; Attracting others is the art. Not an easy art, however abstract art, complex to comprehend, however once you understand this; your life takes an important turn. You may utilize your interpersonal abilities to learn this particular art. The first plus foremost ability is to create your personality desirable along with adorable. An enjoyable personality attracts other people like the magnet. Nevertheless the question arises, exactly how could you have an attractive and a stylish personality? The solution is very simple. You have to adopt all of the traits that perform a vital role within grooming your personality, therefore enhancing its magnetic power. Such as a smile is really a medicine, which could cure any disease. People who smile tend to be well liked by all one. A lovely smile could attract numerous. A cool smile may conquer the invincible. In case you meet other people having a smile on the face instead of the frown, they'll be absolutely attracted towards you. Consequently polish this particular aspect of your own personality to improve your value. One more suggestion to appear attractive is to follow commendable behavior. You’re sophisticated and manners may impress folks effortlessly. Be patient as well as polite. Treat other people with love plus care. Give the respect to people around you. Be sincere in your dealings along with other folks. Trust your abilities together with refrain from utilizing unfair means. Become confident and also bold. Demonstrate your talents as well as utilize your abilities positively. A fair someone wins the hearts and minds of others along with is continually a focal point of interest and attraction. You can also try out;When someone appears confident and successful, they draw people toward them. If you look defeated, withdrawn and have not taken care of yourself then that shows to those around you and they will avoid you. Exercise regularly, eat healthy, take care of yourself and others will be drawn to you. Have you ever noticed that some of the most popular people are those that tell great stories. It's not that the story itself needs to be great, it's just that it needs to be told in a passionate and confident way. Make sure you observe what is going on around you, stay abrest of current events and learn to tell stories. People want to be around other positive people not complainers or those who always take the negative spin. If you can see the positive in situations – even better – take action towards making things more positive then you will be seen as someone of high social importance becoming much more attractive to those around you.
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Ice cream prices likely to soar April 05, 2012 18:18
Come summer, everyone wishes to dig their teeth into ice cream to beat the heat. While there are many people who enjoy ice cream irrespective of seasons, it becomes a conventional necessity to everyone in summer. Now, what would be the reaction if ice cream prices touch sky? Undoubtedly disgusting, point out many youths in Hyderabad. Yes friends, after petrol and essential commodities, the Centre’s attention now turned towards ice cream. According to sources, ice cream prices are going to be increased soon and eating ice cream would likely to be a costly affair although it doesn’t affect people with deep pockets. International financial experts, on the other hand, cry foul on shortage of vanilla pods, which have fallen short in Madagascar, Mexico and even in India. This was even published in a famous international business magazine, The Grocer. Although this has nothing to do with prices of other flavours such as butter scotch, strawberry and chocolate, local markets will take this as an advantage and increase the prices of al flavours making ice-cream a distant dream to working class.
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Money or Relationship… what rules more! April 05, 2012 16:53
Day in and day out, we talk about relationships and how trust, love and togetherness plays a important role in building and sustaining a affective relationship… in this scenario, we also say, money comes in the least priority in maintaining the relationship. But, the fact is at times, money takes a major reason for a healthy relationship, be it a friendship of years together or even in the marital relationship, ruins the ‘love’ in the same… Okay, let’s leave everything and talk about a situation where we have borrowed money from the best of our friends at our work place. We might have not been able to re pay the amount within the promised time… and we might also have observed the change in the behavior of our ‘friend’ from whom we have borrowed money… the simple way to find out their perspective towards you have been changed is ‘they are friends with some other and no more share that rapport with you’… to know more about this, read further; See what one blogger shares and thinks about loaning money to family or friends. Find out why it may not be such a good idea. When a family member needs a cosigner on a loan, find out whether it is really a good idea if you are the extra party to the loan. If you are in the position of needing money, look here before you ask your family. There are some things you need to take into consideration before getting into that sort of agreement with your family or friends. This is a very delicate situation. Some families have been torn apart by lending money out. Take time to read this and see whether it is really a good idea or not. Get a few tips on why mixing your business money and family is not a good idea. Relationships have been severed when doing so. Learn a few ways to handle those family members who may be constantly asking you for money. Get ideas on how to tell them no without hurting the relationship. Discover how to deal with someone in your family asking for money. Find an easier way to handle the requests and still keep your relationship in tact. See what one blogger says about lending money to your friends. Find out why they say the answer should always be No. When others are in a tight money bind, you could lend them money. Often this leads to strained or even severed relationships. Find seven ways here to help them without hurting your relationships. Should you lend your boyfriend/girlfriend money? Find out here what one blogger says about this delicate subject. See how one blogger feels about lending money to your family. Some say there is not a problem while others advise against it. Learn when it is okay to lend money to family and friends. Some people say it is never okay while some do it every day. If you are considering cosigning a loan with a family member or a friend read this first. Find out here what you need to know before signing those papers. Find out why some advisers say that borrowing money from friends is a bad idea. You should not lend money to friends or family in most cases. I suppose the above mentioned suggestions can catered by you about the pros and cons of borrowing, lending and not borrowing or lending money from either your colleague at work place or even with your loved ones…
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Don’t let the mood swings rule you! April 04, 2012 14:11
There are definitely certain scenarios in life, where we ourselves do not know what we want… here the clarity is missing… we also would come across certain situations where we do not have a clarity as to why did we behave or react to the situation in a given manner… over hear, the control on our mood swings is missing… let’s find out more about the same; Mood swings could be further defined as; Feelings and emotions are explained by the term mood. Event-thought-feeling-behavior is all connected. Your behavior or reaction to an event will affect to a greater extent your feelings and thoughts. Occasionally this series of operations cause a person to go in a downward spiral and become increasingly depressed. On the other hand it may result in an upward spiral with increasing elation. Bodily processes both physical and biological can be influenced by behavior, thoughts and mood. Mood swings can be a detrimental force on the quality of a person’s life. Dictionaries often define mood as a state of mind, or a prevailing feeling or emotion. Each mood is distinct, yet they blend into one another, and moving through a spectrum of moods is a normal and appropriate response. Our mood can play a significant role in how we live our lives. When we are happy, we tend to concentrate on the good things and ignore the negative aspects of things that happen around us. Similarly, when we are sad, we may be unable to think of anything but those negative aspects, to the extent that we may avoid the people or the activities that would help to mitigate the sadness and banish the mood. Most of us experience quite intense moods in response to the events that occur in our lives. Some people, however, experience such dramatic ups and downs that they find it difficult to enjoy a good quality of life. These dramatic swings in mood may be extreme responses to external events, or they may have their origin in internal changes in the body’s chemistry. When mood swings are problematic, it could signify the presence of a mood disorder. There are several mood disorders, among them chronic depression, major depressive disorder and manic–depressive disorder (sometimes called bipolar disorder). The first two are characterized by periods of depressed mood interspersed with periods of normal mood. The third encompasses both downswings and upswings, and in the extreme these can take the form of cycles of very severe depression changing very rapidly to mania. Symptoms of depression may include: • insomnia (or increased sleep)• reduced (or increased) appetite• feelings of worthlessness• recurrent thoughts of death Symptoms of mania may include • reduced need for sleep• excessive pursuit of pleasure• more talkative than usual• grandiose ideas Try managing your mood swings by identifying them sooner, if not there is no harm in going for an expert opinion for a better you!
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‘Respect’, the Destiny maker of a relationship? April 03, 2012 12:09
‘There is a minute difference between confidence and over confidence’… this is an age old yet proven to be right statement… similarly, ‘no relationship would sustain without mutual respect’, is even a statement that we are experiencing these days in particular. Lack of value and respect in the relationship is the basic reason for any relationship to end up in ‘rocks’… a single word, ‘Respect’ and that would change the entire identity of a relationship? Definitely, just as a pinch more or less salt would change the entire taste and flavor of a dish… similarly; despite of all other factors considering being the best at their place, the lack of ‘respect’ in a relationship would change the condition of the entire relationship… Nobody wants to feel cheap and used, is it not? So when it comes to the seduction game, one of the very first rules that the lover must adhere to is to present himself in the best possible light. The better impression he makes by way of dress, immaculate manners, sense of humor, good taste and general behavior, the more respect the girl or woman will have for him, and the easier it will be for him to make a lasting impression. If the man uses this good impression to his advantage, he will be firm and confident in his approach, he will leave no doubt that he is in charge, but he will do it in such a way that he is still considered an impeccable gentleman. Women respect a man with a plan. They want to see that he knows what he is doing and that he put thought behind their date. Like they say: "I do not care what the plan is, as long as you have a plan when you come and pick me up" There are instances where men do manage to seduce women when they both had too much too drink or where circumstances lent itself to it, but normally this is followed the next day by a feeling of guilt on the part of the women. More often than not they say to themselves: "How could I have allowed the guy to have sex with me? We hardly know each other. I am certain he has no respect for me now." And unfortunately this is true. Where a man manages to get a woman into bed without too much trouble, even if he does not say so, he certainly suspects that she is a bit of a tramp. Men, at the end of the day, want to feel that he deserved what he got. He worked for it. He did all the right things. He treated her well; he spoilt her a bit and was irresistible. The woman on the other hand, would like to believe that the man was absolutely charming and overwhelming, that he seduced her so effectively that she had absolutely no choice but to sleep with him. When that happens, both of them are satisfied, feel good about them and can look each other in the eye the next day without fear or feelings of guilt. It is also very easy to take the relationship further from this point. If the experience was really enjoyable and they enjoyed each other's conversation, style and personalities, it can develop into a longer-term relationship. If not, they will still be able to face each other and remain friends. In my best relationships advice book you can read more about the need for respect in a relationship, and why this is so important in seduction techniques…
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Your life, at the wish of Society??? April 02, 2012 16:23
‘I am living in a society… I need to live according to the will and wish of the rest and people around me, my family as well… I can’t marry the person I love/get out of a committed relationship and find a person whom I want to live/cannot marry a person from other religion or community/person who has a bad past, physical ailments, who is already married with a kid and is no more living with his partner, because the society would not accept and stand by my decision and I cannot answer everyone about my decision’… if you are still thinking about what society thinks and just sacrificing your happiness, ending up in a ‘love’ less relationship in order to make the so called society happy…. here are some best quotes by best lived people from our society itself, who lived their life, their way, despite of living between us; Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe things happen for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it. People change, things go wrong. Just remember life goes on. Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can't change. Forgive quickly, take chances, give everything and have no regrets. Life's too short to be anything but happy. You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, I dont care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I am not going to let this get the best of me. Im moving on with my life. You can't look back, you just have to put the past behind you, and find something better in your future. Today expect something good to happen to you no matter what occurred yesterday. Realize the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. Let the past go. A simply abundant world waits. Free yourself from the burden of feeling the need to hold on to anything. Let goyou are a part of everything. And finally, stop living in a myth that society is for you and it actually matters for the rest of World about what you do and what’s with your life… just like you, even others have their own problems and issues with their own lives… so, if you completely believe and answer your heart out about what you have thought to do, just move on and do your will… in fact, your life is not even your once you leave your body… think over and extend your thoughts in implementing the way you want…
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Party time… But Party the ‘Best’! March 31, 2012 16:16
Saturday, Sunday for that matter during the weekdays even, Party culture is prevailing a lot…. In fact this is a better option to add on some more names in your friends list and to build in some PR with the society… We aspire to give our best in whatever we do… why don’t we plan for the best party ever? Well, ‘Best’ differs from one person to another, it is just that you need to feel that whatever you have organized in the ‘BEST’… here are some tips for a ‘Best’ party of your kind; Stick to What You Know. Parties are not the time to experiment, because who needs the added stress of unpredictability? The best recipe is one you can make with your eyes closed. If the urge strikes you to branch out, give it a trial run beforehand. Buy in Bulk. If you entertain often, choose a few go-to recipes (vary them slightly if you’re entertaining the same people). You can stock up on the basic ingredients at the beginning of the holiday season. Prep Your Fridge. Before you come home with 80 bags of groceries, clean out your refrigerator and freezer. Toss old condiments and anything you can no longer identify. Fill your fridge safely as well as smartly: Place raw meats away from fruits and vegetables. And keep an eye on the temperature inside with a refrigerator thermometer—the more stuffed your fridge gets, the more difficult it is for the cold air to thoroughly circulate. Prepare Serving Dishes. Don’t waste valuable time on the day of the event trying to remember where you’ve stashed the holiday platters, plates, stemware, serving spoons, and linens. Plan out what dishes you’ll use, and clean and polish them a few days in advance. For sit-down dinners, you can set the table ahead of time. For cocktail parties, lay serving dishes and napkins out for snacks the day before. Plan on a Realistic Amount of Food and Drink. A good guideline for a three-hour cocktail party is about three drinks per person, or about one bottle of wine for every two to three guests and one quart of liquor for every 10 to 12 guests. For predinner hors d’oeuvres plan on three to five pieces per person, and for a three-hour cocktail party, about four to six pieces per person per hour. Show a Little Flair.Whether your thing is cooking, origami, or playing a little jazz flute, show your style through personal details. Don’t go all Martha Stewart on your guests, but a few unique touches make your party memorable. Vibe Out. No one wants to linger very long in a room that’s lit like an airport lounge. Choose lighting, music, seating, and a temperature that are conducive to eating, drinking, and socializing. Put Your Guests to Work.But only if they ask, and just enough to make them feel useful. Keep the tasks simple: opening wine bottles, putting coats in the bedroom, or bringing out some hors d’oeuvres. You shouldn’t ask guests to take out garbage or put away dishes. Clean as You Go. Don’t make guests feel like you’re tidying up because the party’s over. Instead, try to grab crumpled napkins, toothpicks, unaccounted-for glasses, and plates on your way to the kitchen. A little cleaning here and there will ease postparty cleanup, but don’t obsess over every dish in the sink.
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Falling in Love… Over and again! March 30, 2012 15:34
Now, stop letting your mind go here and there. I am trying to know, how to just manage those equations between you and your partner to just be perfect and love blossom over and again, after n number of years of you both being together…. That ‘new’, ‘fresh’ emotions would take a back seat after many years of you both being together… but the point is how to re-invent the same… let us see; Sit down with your partner for no more than five minutes. Take a deep breath before you begin, erase all doubt, blame or fear from your mind as you can, and think about how much you used to love your partner. Look him straight in the eye and tell him how much you miss feeling intimate and close. Tell him that you both need, deserve, want more than you're getting out of the relationship, and that you want to change things from the current comfortable existence you share, into something more loving, exciting and fun than you ever thought possible. Then, if you feel like it, give him a quick hug or a kiss, and move on to something else. Let him think about what you've just said, and don't force him to respond. Just let him know, and leave it at that for now. Think back to when you first started dating: what types of things and experiences did you do together? What made him laugh, what did you both enjoy, why you fall in love? Take those experiences now, and try to create something simple and fun in the same spirit. You don't need to recreate it exactly, and you'll want to start with something small. Aim for one of these events, outings or experiences once a week, with no other intention than to have some fun, laugh together, and enjoy each other's company again without talking about your relationship. When you're first falling in love, your partner fascinates you and you want to linger on their every word. So a quick and simple way to increase the loving feelings between you and your boyfriends, and just maybe fall in love again, is to spend more time looking him in the eye when you're talking. A few books explain the concept of fighting fairly in a relationship, but none (in my opinion) as well as Don't Break Up, Make Up, by Dr. Bonnie Weil. In it, the therapist explains in great detail what you need to do and when you need to do it to save your relationship, including identifying your relationship styles, how to communicate with your partner about contentious issues, and how to fall back in love again. research says that success, being that the couples not only fell back in love, but found a deeper and more meaningful connection than they'd ever shared before. Every time you are bored of your relationship or your partner, just try filling the relationship and the atmosphere around you with fun and happiness. This way you would be re – inventing your life, with the person whom you loved the most once… Above all, just believe in living that day… plan and think of tomorrow, but just live that day to the fullest…. Kalkyahoga, kisnejaana!
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