‘There is a minute difference between confidence and over confidence’… this is an age old yet proven to be right statement… similarly, ‘no relationship would sustain without mutual respect’, is even a statement that we are experiencing these days in particular. Lack of value and respect in the relationship is the basic reason for any relationship to end up in ‘rocks’… a single word, ‘Respect’ and that would change the entire identity of a relationship? Definitely, just as a pinch more or less salt would change the entire taste and flavor of a dish… similarly; despite of all other factors considering being the best at their place, the lack of ‘respect’ in a relationship would change the condition of the entire relationship…
Nobody wants to feel cheap and used, is it not? So when it comes to the seduction game, one of the very first rules that the lover must adhere to is to present himself in the best possible light. The better impression he makes by way of dress, immaculate manners, sense of humor, good taste and general behavior, the more respect the girl or woman will have for him, and the easier it will be for him to make a lasting impression.
If the man uses this good impression to his advantage, he will be firm and confident in his approach, he will leave no doubt that he is in charge, but he will do it in such a way that he is still considered an impeccable gentleman. Women respect a man with a plan. They want to see that he knows what he is doing and that he put thought behind their date. Like they say: "I do not care what the plan is, as long as you have a plan when you come and pick me up" There are instances where men do manage to seduce women when they both had too much too drink or where circumstances lent itself to it, but normally this is followed the next day by a feeling of guilt on the part of the women.
More often than not they say to themselves: "How could I have allowed the guy to have sex with me? We hardly know each other. I am certain he has no respect for me now." And unfortunately this is true. Where a man manages to get a woman into bed without too much trouble, even if he does not say so, he certainly suspects that she is a bit of a tramp.
Men, at the end of the day, want to feel that he deserved what he got. He worked for it. He did all the right things. He treated her well; he spoilt her a bit and was irresistible. The woman on the other hand, would like to believe that the man was absolutely charming and overwhelming, that he seduced her so effectively that she had absolutely no choice but to sleep with him.
When that happens, both of them are satisfied, feel good about them and can look each other in the eye the next day without fear or feelings of guilt. It is also very easy to take the relationship further from this point. If the experience was really enjoyable and they enjoyed each other's conversation, style and personalities, it can develop into a longer-term relationship. If not, they will still be able to face each other and remain friends.
In my best relationships advice book you can read more about the need for respect in a relationship, and why this is so important in seduction techniques…
