More than anything else, this statement would be applicable to the best in the situation when you are thinking to settle down and get married… for that one last time, just think about your marriage and relationship, before you end up feeling pity on the decision taken by you and in return on your life as well. And on what basis you would consider rethinking about marriage? Here are the following guidelines that can help you;
A sense of humor is vital, and the first person you have to laugh at is yourself. Consider this men and women have to hook up on some level to propagate the species, proving God has a sense of humor. He obviously assumed we would too.
You figure you’ll give half, he’ll give half and you’ll meet somewhere in the middle. You poor, poor dear. The reality is, there will be some days you’ll give 90% and you may or may not get 10% back. There may be weeks or months that pass with the scales out of whack. Remember- you committed your whole life to him, and in your lifetime the scales will shift back in your favor. Interestingly, the scales will align faster if you abandon the scorecard and self-pity.
Does he leave the toilet seat up? Get over it. Are his table manners a fright? Look the other way. Is he a tight-wad? You better be at one with strict budgets. Try seeing your new hubby’s annoying habits as endearing. In addition to his positive traits, his quirks make him who he is. Figure out a way to truly accept the whole package- the good, the bad and the ugly.
If you said “I do” to this one, start goggling divorce attorneys now. Fundamental expectations like being treated well, being faithful, or being honest are covered by your wedding vows. If you want a long lasting marriage, let go of any romance novel or Lifetime movie expectations you have. The men in Hollywood are actors. Real men, generally speaking, are not geared for romance and eloquent, loving speeches. With this attitude, you’ll better enjoy the thoughtful little things your new husband does. Lowered expectations and happily ever after go hand in hand.
Like fingerprints, marriages are unique and specific to the two individuals involved and the one-of-a-kind bond they create. Instead of scowling at your husband when your friend brags about the romantic vacation her husband took her on, just smile. Maybe your friend left out how her husband ogled other women on the beach or said something at dinner that made her cry. You never know what goes on behind closed doors- be secure in what you and your husband share and the knowledge that it works for you.
Marriage for being a success or ending up in a mess needs to be worked out by both of you. Someone rightly said, ‘If you are working on your marriage, each day, that definitely means you are success in your marriage each day’, so never relax and stop working with your relationship and marriage.
Just retain that love and affection in your relationship and the rest all would follow… and of course, do not forget to just light up that ‘spice’ in your relationship, be it you are married for just a year or for a decade…
