We watch our favorite show even after years of it started being aired in the Television… if you question yourself for reason behind this… could be the ‘spark’ in the show, that is alive even after these many years.
The favorite of your's bought with a lot of enthusiasm, still remains to be your favorite… this could be because of the ‘spark’ in your eyes, when you see that dress.
If the so called 'spark' is so very important that makes you not lose your interest when it comes to your favorite T.V. Show or a dress, it is understood, even after many years of your relationship, ‘spark’ could keep the love and belongingness in your relationship to be alive.
If you agree that 'spark' is missing in your relationship, then here are some quick tips you can work on re – creating that ‘spark’;
Along with the routines and pressures of everyday life, things have probably become a tad serious. It’s about time you loosened up and had some fun. And that includes the time when you're in and out of bed. So if you think sex has become a duty or a chore to be performed just like any other, then you really need to make it more exciting and fun. Find ways to giggle together and things to laugh about even when you’re in bed. Sharing a naughty joke, tickling each other silly or even staging your personal WWF show to only make things livelier. And to add a twist to it, try playing strip poker – you won’t mind losing at this game!
If you're bored with the turn your sex life has taken, it’s probably about time you relooked at things and tried something new. If you’re always doing it with the lights off, why not try diffused lighting, or even better, candlelight or by the fireplace. The play of shadows lends an erotic feel to the experience. Mirrors are a great sexual mood enhancer too. It can be a huge turn-on to watch your reflections and see as well as feel what your partner is doing to you. Expand your knowledge and brush up on your technique by reading up extensively from sex guides. While you may think that practice makes perfect, a little extra education goes a long way! You can always benefit from learning something new.
If your partner has gotten used to quickies and doesn’t spend much time on foreplay, don’t fret. Take the initiative to prime yourself beforehand. Gorge on some aphrodisiacs like chocolate or caviar. If you find that reading erotica or watching some steamy movies or porn videos does it for you, go ahead and set the mood. All’s fair in love and lust!
If you’ve secretly harbored fantasies of harem girls and been turned on at the thought of being the object of slavish adoration, go ahead and ask your spouse if she will oblige. Or if you’d like him to do a ‘full Monty’ or her to dress up as a French maid, share your secret desires and wishes. As long as it's not too over-the-top you might be surprised how willing your partner is to fulfill your desires and spice up your intimate moments. If you feel inhibited or silly about sharing a fantasy, write it down and ask your partner to do the same. Plan a fantasy-filled weekend when you will both cater to the other’s innermost longings.
It's important not to save kissing, hugging and demonstrative shows of affection for when you’re in bed. Pull your partner aside any time through the day, for a hug or a full-on smooch.
Don't …
....be lazy and postpone doing something special to make your spouse feel a little happy.
....be selfish and only be a taker…give as much and more than the measure in which you receive.
....assume too much – that you know exactly what turns your partner on, ask occasionally if you can do something different and you might be surprised by the answer.
....feel guilty or be prudish or have preconceived notions of what’s right or wrong. If you are okay with it, do it.
....wait till the end of the day when you’re too tired and all you can think of is sleep.
It's also time for a little self-gratification. And doing things together. Give each other a massage or go together for one. This will leave you feeling relaxed, just what you need to get into the mood for a little loving. When she’s sick, take care of her just like she treats you like a little boy and mothers you when you’re sick. Take over the household tasks and don't let her get out of bed if you can help it. Rejuvenate your mind by joining yoga classes or dance to each other’s tune by enrolling in a salsa or ballroom dancing class.
