With the careers, aims and ambitions, individual goals in a relationship taking a front seat these days, we get to see more and more long distance relationships around us… this idea of being in love with a person who is physically away from you and sharing your emotions seems to be a exciting idea… but this is really exciting in practicality? With the ‘communication’ taking a major seat in a relationship, will we would be able to manage to sustain with this affective ‘communication’ in a long distance relationship? For that matter, do long distance relationships really work?
There is a possibility of meeting your partner at least once in a week even though you are in a long distance relationship. On the other end, if you both are staying in two different countries all together, meeting each other would be possible once in six months or even once in an year… when you meet everything might seem just fine or you might be in a thought that you are in a relationship, just for the sake of being in…
The only way you can really get to know somebody, though, is to see them every single day. You need to see what they’re like after a long day of work. You need to see how they are in the middle of a regular work day.
Relationships are difficult to begin with, but long distance relationships tend to be fantasy-driven. Now, there are long distance relationships that are successful.
Most of the ones that I’ve known about or seen, however, do not end up lasting long-term. When the people finally are together in the same place, they are often broken up within a month because they finally start to experience what each other is like and how each other behaves on a daily basis.
Remember, when you’re in a long distance relationship, you are just seeing each other on the weekends. You really are always on your best behavior every time you’re together.
It’s hot and passionate every time you meet. You look forward to seeing that person every time. In fact, you usually can’t wait to see that person. It’s sexy.
You think about them on the airplane. At the end of every weekend when you leave each other, you spend the next week thinking about how amazing the prior weekend was. You spend all week thinking about how you can’t wait until the next weekend.
The problem with this is that you never get to see the “nitty gritty” daily stuff. You don’t get to see the bras and panties hanging on the shower curtain rod. You don’t get to see his dirty underwear thrown on the floor. You don’t realize that neither one of you actually never clean up when you’re alone.
That is why long distance relationships are tough. I always truly believed that you are better off hunting in your own neighborhood.
It depends on the level of love and trust i
KittySolntsova@xanga805 points, Level 9
It's all on the you and your SO. Are you guys willing to make it work? Is there enough trust? It's hard enough to have someone go and travel but then there's that matter of the people that linger on the sidelines. Temptation can get to someone. For me, I was at this point where this guy was so far from me but even when I was partying or doing something it wasn't in my head but subconsciously I would watch what I was doing and tone everything I did down a few notches. I think that's how you know if it'll work, if you both feel that way, (the you aren't here but I consider your feelings as if you were thing) because too often people have that "OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND." Thing going on...
