How To Deal With An Unexpected Or Unplanned PregnancyAugust 22, 2017 19:27
How To Deal With An Unexpected Or Unplanned Pregnancy:- As we all know, for a married couple, pregnancy can be one of life’s most exciting times. However, the unexpected pregnancies can be a different experience. Coping with an unplanned pregnancy requires time, space and a network of support. It does not necessarily mean that a couple is ready to start a family, just because a couple finds themselves with a baby on the way.
Here are some coping tips for married couples that find themselves suddenly and unexpectedly expecting.
A) You Can Complain
Despite not feeling ready for parenthood, most of the married couples report an unexpected pregnancy as stressful due to feelings of guilt about keeping the baby. A couple might feel guilty complaining simply because they feel as though they are complaining about the baby, itself. However, you can be disappointed about a possible drastic life change that you did not see coming.
Taking the time to share this unexpected pregnancy with your partner can be a emotional experience for you both, if you are a married couple and find yourselves stressed out. Just because you learn you are able to have children does not necessarily mean you feel ready to commit to this decision. Having an open and honest talk with your spouse can not only have therapeutic value but can also bring you closer. A conversation where your share your fears about parenthood can also help you make a decision on how to move forward with this news, together, which can promote solidarity as a couple.
B) You Can Adjust
Couples who started families by virtue of a surprise pregnancy often report having to make major adjustments as they commit to their new decision. You might have many “adult” plans on the calendar such as weddings or travel plans. While it might be overwhelming to cancel plans and possibly lose money in the process, it is highly likely that adjustments can be made, so you might not have any big penalties or problems in doing so.
With time, learning to make adjustments can get easier. Making adjustments, together, as a couple can also be a bonding experience as you both go through the changes – together that can prepare you for parenthood.
C) You Can Take A Beat
Within the first trimester, most surprise pregnancies are discovered. Not every couple who experiences an unexpected pregnancy determines what to do about it right away. You might want to take a moment to process your thoughts and emotions on the matter, if you find yourself in this position and are unsure how you feel about it.
Jointly deciding to delay your decision can possibly help you make a better decision than if you were to rush into it. Waiting until you feel ready to make a decision, together, can be a good idea to make sure your are not letting your feelings of being emotionally overwhelmed cloud your judgment.