Some call it a genuine relationship, some even value this relationship more than their other relationships, including marriage. it could be not just a physical attraction but emotional connect that would make two or one already having a committed relationship, end up surviving a extra marital relationship.
If this is so true. then why would extra marital affairs end in almost every scenario at some point of the time or other???
Sometimes, The Guilt Becomes So Overwhelming That One Party Chooses To End The Affair: It's also not uncommon for one person to end the affair out of guilt. There's a stereotype that people who have affairs are unfeeling and don't care about their spouse anymore. This isn't always the case. Many do feel guilt and some even end the affair because of those same guilt feelings. Although the person on the other side of the affair will often hope or think that the person with whom they are cheating has distanced himself from his family or is no longer as invested as he once was, this sometimes proves to be not the case.
An Affair Can End Because One Or Both People Involved In It Realize That The Relationship Just Isn't Working Anymore Or Was Built Upon Misconceptions: It's also not uncommon for one or both people in the relationship to evaluate it and decide that it isn't working anymore or just isn't what they thought or hoped it would be. Often in the beginning, they can build the other person up to be something who he or she is not. After all, if you're going to risk your marriage and your family to participate in infidelity, that other person must be awful special. But, after a while, it becomes easier to see them for who they really are or aren't. And when this happens, you can realize that the other person (or the relationship) just isn't worth the risk or the personal costs.
When Reality Sets In, The Rose Colored Glasses Can Come Off: In the beginning of an affair, both people are usually on their best behavior and are working very hard to make each encounter exciting and memorable. Usually at least one person is investing a lot into the relationship. But this can only last or be maintained for so long. Eventually, she might see or have to pick up his dirty socks. Her lack of character might start to annoy him and the list goes on and on. The point is, eventually, the relationship behind the affair becomes like any other relationship - warts and all. And it can become fairly obvious that if the affair is going to have all of the usual problems of a marriage or other long term relationship, then what's the point?
The End To An Affair Can Come Very Abruptly Or Quite Gradually: Sometimes when people think of an affair ending, they picture a very dramatic breakdown. I've had people tell me that they sat on the phone while their spouse called the other person and instantly ended the affair. I've heard of nasty face to face confrontations and threats to never ever have any contact again. But an affair doesn't always end with a bang. It can also end with a gradual whimper where one person quietly breaks it off or the interactions or meetings just become less and less frequent until they eventually end altogether.
No matter how and why affairs end, most do end eventually. Statistics show that very few relationships that start as an affair end up in marriage - much less a marriage that actually lasts. There's an exception to every rule, of course. But for the most part, an affair does not have a high chance of working out or ending well. That's why it can be advisable to never start one in the first place.
