'Oh… don't ask me… this is the nth time and even now I end up judging people in one or two meetings and in the process of knowing them, within a span of couple of months my judgment about them tends to go completely wrong. It’s not about the maturity factor we possess while analyzing things and people around us. It is all about the mistake we make in doing so, of beingso quick in jumping to conclusion on people and situations around us…
Know more as to why we actually analyze or judge others;
Although we had experienced lot of change in our life style, our nature has stayed with us, and that is why everyone we meet we will judge to the best of our abilities based on our knowledge and experience.
There is nothing wrong with judging someone, but get to know the person after you judge them to find out how accurate you were. The more you do this, the better you will become at reading someone you meet the first time.
Based on looks alone, it seems men are much more prone to judge the opposite sex than women.
The moment a man sees a woman he analyzes her in terms of beauty, face, body and smile and thus decides what kind of interaction he wants with her. I do not think this is wrong, because the idea is trying to find someone you are going to spend the rest of your life with, and if you are not 100% absolutely crazy about the way she looks, and she is really attractive to you (forget about being attractive to others) then it probably will not be what you are looking for and thus not as strong a connection as it could be with someone else.
The physical appearance is what you see all the time so it must be what you are satisfied with.
Women also judge men based on looks alone, and sometimes looks are enough to make her want to talk to you, but generally women judge men based on other criteria.
Body language is something like 90% of all communication. How a man carries himself, how he walks, is he confident, can he keep strong eye contact, does it look like he can lead, or does he let others push him around, does he go for what he wants, are the words that come out of his mouth sincere and genuine, is he comfortable in his own skin?
These things matter way more to a girl than how he looks, even if he is a little chubby and not so good-looking, it doesnot matter that much, he can still get a girl who is a super-model.
The thing about judging someone is that you should not just follow general opinion.
When it comes to people, bear in mind that people have defines up initially, and this can make them come across as rude, or arrogant, or selfish or nasty while when you break through that barrier, they become the nicest people you have ever met.
The more people are good and try and be nice to others and are then taken advantage of, the more careful they become and the more hesitant they become to initially be nice to strangers. This is the defense system I’m talking about.
