Whenever I get asked by a close friend or buddy of mine to give them some pointers or advice on how to approach women, one of the first questions I will ask is... "Are you comfortable with rejection?" Now, when I ask a question like that, I usually already know what the response is going to be. And I also usually get met with a puzzled look on their face. The reason why I ask this question is, because most men that do not have much success with approaching women are not comfortable with rejection. The converse is also true, though. Most men who are pretty successful at approaching women ARE comfortable with rejection.
82/365 After 5 years, its still eating me apart
Some years back, I made a quantum leap in my results that I got with approaching women. I went from being the guy who would take a look at the super hot woman from across the room, think about approaching her, and then talk myself out of it. The reason for this was simple. At that time, I was NOT comfortable with rejection. I hated it, and to be honest, I kind of feared it.
Problem is… that hatred of rejection and that fear of it. held me back from actually seizing opportunities to go and talk to beautiful women. I could approach an average woman without much problem, but the super attractive ones? Not so much. Then one day, I just FORCED myself. And it was uncomfortable at first but I found out something that most men just do not get.
Approaching a beautiful woman was not all that different from approaching an average looking one. I mean, it really is basically the same thing, it’s just one looks hotter than the other. I know, that's pretty superficial of me, but hey, I’m a guy what can I say, lol.
You HAVE To Become Comfortable With Rejection.
In all honesty, your odds of getting rejected by an average looking woman versus a really good looking woman are almost the same. Sure, you might do a little better with the average ones, but when it comes right down to it. it’s not that big of a difference. So, the first thing that you really need to do is… become comfortable with rejection.
It’s not going to end your world. It might sting for a bit, but once you get past that initial sting, it’s not really all that bad. It can help you to learn for the next time. And the beautiful thing about it is, once you are okay with it, it just tends to happen less and less. Don’t ask me why… it just DOES.
Every guy I know that does really well with women has no problem with getting rejected. It does not tank their self esteem and it does not keep them from moving on to the next one. And that is the attitude that you need to have if you really want to know how to approach women. Think of it like this… when was the last time the Yankees went an entire season undefeated?
Answer: NEVER!
So, don’t think that you have to be perfect or that there is some way to completely eliminate rejection, because just like the Yankees have to lose even when they dominate a season… you will get rejected from time to time even when you do incredibly well with women.
