‘Extra marital’ affair or ‘Two Timing’, you can name it according to your convenience. But, once that ‘hawaa’ is out of you and once things are being perfect with your committed partner or you have known the difference of love when compared to your committed partner and the one you are just seeing, then it would not take much of a time to get out of it. but, the challenge is, how to handle this relationship and convey the same to the one with whom you are in a ‘Extra marital’ affair, that is neither accepted by the society nor by you yourself after you have known your identity. Good for you, but all you have to do is handle the split with a maturity. As this should not make the situation worst and affect the committed relationship of yours. For this, you can;
More than half of all men, and around fifty percent of all women, will have an extramarital affair at some point during their marriage. One delicate subject once an affair has started is how to end this activity in the best way possible. Stopping an affair could end badly if it is not handled right, especially if your lover has strong feelings for you and does not want the relationship to end. Look at why you want the affair to end, and be honest about your feelings. Take time to think about every possible reaction you may receive from your lover, and script your responses in return. When breaking off an affair the best way to do this is to meet your lover in a public place, so there is less of a chance that a scene will unfold once you explain the affair is ending.
At the meeting be honest with your lover. Start by stating that the affair is ended, and then make sure to explain the reasons behind this decision. Tell the lover that you will no longer accept contact from them, and ask them to cease all communication from that time on. Once you have explained your position do not stick around, but simply ask them again not to contact you in any way and then leave. Take any appropriate steps to prevent contact, such as blocking the phone number of the ex-lover and alerting your employer that the individual is not welcome at your job. If the individual continues to call, text, email, or visit then additional steps may need to be taken.
Contact your cellular company, and ask that the calls and texts from the ex-lover are blocked and cannot come through. Once this is done simply delete the information for the ex-lover, and they cannot contact you this way any longer. For emails simply mark the sender info as Spam or trash, and direct the emails straight into the junk file so you do not even have to see them. If the individual shows up at your home or office do not allow them to enter and ask them to leave immediately. If they do not comply it may be necessary to call the police and have them removed.
In some cases an ex-lover can turn into a stalker. If this happens then you may need to involve the police, and even get a personal protection order to prevent an ex-lover from harassing you. In these situations it may become necessary to admit the affair and warn your spouse, especially if the court and police are involved. Using caution and discretion before, during, and after an affair can prevent this. Avoid feeling pity or sympathy for the other party, and never attempt to negotiate or give in to emotional blackmail. These steps may erode your will to end the affair, and can be used by an ex-lover to manipulate you into starting the affair back up. Once you have ended the affair stay strong, and refuse any contact. This will let the other party know you are serious in your resolve to end the relationship permanently.
