Unfortunately, we've all been there. One day you're in a great relationship, the next, you're alone. Breakups can be really hard and if you don't know how to cope, you can lose your mind. Here are some foolproof steps to help you to survive a bad breakup.
Let yourself grieve
If any person tells you not to cry or to not waste time being upset, they are wrong. Although your friends may tell you, "You've gotta get out and move on," you will never be able to move on until you give yourself time to get over the past relationship.
Make the day after a breakup your grieving time. Let yourself cry. Let yourself be miserable. Lie in bed all day if you want to. The point is to just let all of your emotions out. If you give yourself a full day to grieve, you'll be surprised at how much easier it will become to move on a week later.
Perhaps you did contribute to their decision to break up with you in some way. However, this does not make it your fault. Nor does it make you a bad person. It is your ex-partner's loss - you have a lot to offer and sadly they could not see that untapped potential.
Do not blame yourself
When someone breaks up with you with no reason offered, it is all too simple to think that you are entirely at fault. Perhaps you feel you were not enough for that person, insufficiently popular or not as exciting as someone else they fancied. If your former significant other broke up with you on such vain terms, then they are not worth your time. There are others out there who will see the positives in you.
Surround yourself with people
If you're feeling down, the last thing you want is to be alone. After your day of grieving is over, if you're still feeling upset, invite a friend or two over to keep you preoccupied. If you're a girl, grab some Ben and Jerry's and watch some good chick flicks with your friends. If you're a guy, watch some sports and play some video games, whatever makes you happy, as long as you're not alone.
Keep yourself busy
This step is key to getting over a bad breakup. Although you might want to just lie on your couch and sulk, you need to get out and be busy. Go shopping, meet up with a friend, or even just go out for a run. The less time you have to dwell over the old relationship, the more quickly you will be able to get over it.
Photos, videos, text messages, Facebook conversations, everything. It's tempting to go back and read/see everything again. But it's pointless and hurtful to do so. If you can't do it, ask a friend to do it for you. It will help.
Pay attention to your work
If you're working or in college, pay attention to what you should be doing. Work hard, study a lot, and you will think about this person a lot less, for sure. Especially if you like what you're doing, this is going to be productive and very good for you.
Join a sport or take up a hobby
This a great time to explore your own needs and wants and the challenge yourself. You're single again and can dedicate more of your time to your personal development. Sport clubs are an excellent way to meet new people and perhaps even learn something new about yourself.
This is not an excuse to "show" your significant other how much better off you are without them. Certainly it is fine to feel that you may have grown without them, but at the end of the day, the motivation should come from within yourself.
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BY M. DIVYA SRI